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The Pride of
A Woman
FRED NWAOZOR
The Author of Scenic Scenarios
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FRED
NWAOZOR
The Pride Of
A WOMAN
A Woman
FRED NWAOZOR
The
Author of Scenic Scenarios
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DEDICATION
Mrs. Vero N. Nwaozor
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
First
and foremost, to the Paraclete, for His divine intervention and guidance.
PREFACE
This publication shall present an
extensive insight into the actual features that give the definite definition of
a unique and real woman. It would be discussing those pronounced, moderate and
hidden qualities in a woman that make the world feel her presence, and as well,
grant her the privilege to stand above others.
For successful actualization of the aim
of this compilation, the forthcoming analyses would be duly backed up with
necessary hints to enable the reader fully comprehend the basic motive of the
author. Thus, it would be inconsequential for any personal instance, suggestion
or addendum of any kind other than that of the author to be drawn for the
purpose of convincing the reader, in order to avoid any sort of bias. On this
note, the author shall be solely responsible for any subsequent reaction(s)
that may arise owing to the reader’s comprehension.
-- FDN NWAOZOR
CONTENTS
Dedication
Acknowledgement
Preface
Chapter
1: Who’s a woman
Chapter
2: Woman and the Society
Chapter
3: Exterior possessions
Chapter
4: Interior possessions
Chapter
5: A woman-free society
Chapter
6: Conclusion
The
Book
The Author
** 1 **
WHO IS A WOMAN ?
History tells us that every creature or being
was created in pair to aid and foster sexual reproduction. On other hand, the
holy writ also tells us that, in the beginning having created all things, God
created man in His own image. And further created a partner for the man out of
the rib of the man in question. Thus, according to the book, the two beings were
paired-up to coexist.
If we are to consider the ages of all
things, then I as a social analyst will vividly tell you that the world remains
the oldest thing in existence. But don’t forget, same world was created by
somebody; someone referred to as the Paraclete who’s generally known as the
supremacy. And, we all believe in this supreme being regardless of our
respective religious affiliations. Even in philosophy under the evolutionary
theory, after all the discussions and subsequent arguments that were developed,
it was concluded and accepted by those concerned that, truly God exists. As it
was stated above, in His image, He created mankind having concluded created
other things that would be needed by man. Therefore, a man is as old as the
world. He further thought it wise or saw reason that the then created man must
be supported by someone to enable him build his empire or pursue his goal(s)
adequately. On that note, He made a woman out of a man in order to balance the
equation. More so, a woman is also as old as the world
Brethren, from my singular perspective,
there were two potent reasons of creating a woman from a man’s rib/body. The
first reason was to make both creatures be of the same nature; that is, to ensure
that they have similar mindsets, body type and emotions to enable them see
themselves as one in order to coexist amicably and harmoniously, and as well
possess similar endowments. The second motive was to make a woman remain
submissive to a man irrespective of the circumstances surrounding them. At this
juncture, let’s take the basic definition of a woman from various perspectives.
According to
BBC English Dictionary, a woman is “an adult female human being.” Similarly,
the Oxford Advanced Learners Dictionary defines it as “an adult female human
being.” Furthermore, the Concise Mobile Systems Dictionary says, “a woman is an
adult human female.” Other dictionaries such as Chambers and Longman cited
similar definition. The most similar and consistent term in the above
definitions is “adult”. In the previous paragraphs, we’ve already learnt that a
woman is a human or human being. Thus, another thing learned from the above
definitions is that a woman is a female being.
From my personal view, I do not think
it’s ideal to include ‘adult’ in any definition of a woman, because adulthood
shouldn’t be a criteria or prerequisite for any female human being or female
child to be entitled to womanhood. If one at ten can do what the President of
his/her country does, what stops him/her from becoming the President of the
country in question? Take for instance, the world renowned Nigerian female
musician popularly known as Asa residing in the United States of America
(U.S.A) began her music career at a very tender age. So, would someone say or
insinuate that she wasn’t worthy to embrace the womanhood at that stage/age she
made such tremendous and remarkable accomplishment, simply because she was not
an adult or not up to eighteen or sixteen as the case may be? If the general
answer to that question is ‘Yes’, I hereby strongly disapprove such response or
insinuation because it’s wrong or antisocial.
Based on the above critique, in a
nutshell from my humble perspective, a woman is a female human.
** 2 **
WOMAN AND THE SOCIETY
One may decide to sip water before embarking
on his/her meal. On the other hand, you may prefer beans to rice, while one of
your siblings cherish the intake or consumption of rice than beans. Whichever
case in respect to these we might be considering, the bone of contention
remains that “choice” is in question. We all are bound to make choices
respective of our individual differences. In Economics as a social science, for
those of us who were privileged to pass through it, we were taught about choice
in a comprehensive term in the area of Scale of Preference. Apart from the
knowledge of Economics acquired by some of us, we all are naturally gifted with
the skill/instinct of choice-making. It’s inborn because we were created by a
being that truly acknowledges the efficacy of choice. And, since we were
created in His own image, we also possess similar features.
At
the previous chapter, we’re told that having created all things in existence,
God created man and accompanied him with a woman, whom was derived from the
body of the man. Honestly, this is a matter of choice because He deemed it wise
that creating man after other things had been created, would enable the man to
attain a state of comfort in any society he may find himself. Still in the
attainment of comfort, He also saw reason that a man cannot cope alone, or
thrive without the company/assistance of a woman regardless of the society or
circumstance he may be dwelling in. Thus, the sole purpose of the invention of
a woman into a man’s society was to present the woman as a comforter to the
man.
So,
if I were granted a room to analyze, I’ll proudly say that, God made a very
wonderful choice for creating man after He must had created other
things/beings; which he singlehandedly did to ensure that the man wouldn’t go
hungry or dwell hungrily.
Same Holy
writ informed us that man shall not live by bread alone; meaning that, a man
must squarely face the challenges of life and as well stride limitlessly to
ensure that, he obtains his goal(s) even when there’s no food on his table.
Then, I put it up to you that, such success cannot be obtained in the absence
of a woman. This is why God decided to bring out a woman to make the man’s
society or kingdom complete. Therefore, a man can dwell without a food, but he
can never dwell or stride without a woman. It’s natural. Yes. Not by our making
or by our might. At this point, we can testify how potent God’s choice is.
Here, we’re discussing a woman and the
society. We’ve already given the definition of a woman extensively in the first
chapter. Having noted that fact, then, what is a society?
A society is an organization of people
who have the same or similar interest (aim). You can also refer to the entire
people in a certain area or locality as its society. Summarily, a society is a
union of people in a given area.
Taking the earth as a case study, millions of
societies are in existence; though the earth itself is a society. Therefore a
family, nuclear family precisely, which is a group of people is apparently a
society. And such society (family) is the most smallest society ever in
existence. In any society we might be considering or looking into, a woman’s
presence is or would be highly needed. If we concentrate on a family which is a
very common society in any locality, then I bet you, we stand the chance of actualizing
the major aim of this chapter.
Beloved, after creating man, God
instructed him to go and multiply. Or in a more comprehensive clause, He asked
him (man) to go into the world and multiply. Whichever word, phrase or clause
you wish to use to represent this instruction, the fact remains that
“multiplication” was involved. Here, we’re not referring to mathematical
multiplication, rather biological; though in any form we choose to go about it,
we must abide by the knowledge of mathematics. So if such multiplication which
is biological must take place, the routine or steps towards its attainment must
be duly followed. And the first step toward attaining such goal is marriage.
A marriage is a union between a man and a
woman with the basic aim of producing and rearing offspring. If truly that the
basic object of any marriage is to rear children as stated above, then, we’re
still abiding by the law of nature which mandated us to come to the world and
reproduce ourselves in billion folds.
Let me take you back to the Holy book.
According to the aforementioned writ, the greatest blessing God gave to man was
by telling him that, the number of his children would be like the stars in
heaven which we all know that they are uncountable or unquantifiable. This
blessing was directly issued to Abraham who never disobeyed God having being
asked to use his only begotten child (Isaac) for sacrifice. Thus, our
fundamental motive of being here on earth is to multiply ourselves. Let’s ride
on!
Considering family as the commonest and
the most fundamental society since we were asked to come and multiply ourselves,
and knowing fully that the beginning of such odyssey is marriage, then
apparently, a woman is highly needed in any society. Meaning that, the presence
of a woman in any society is fundamental and natural.
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EXTERIOR POSSESSIONS
In the previous chapters, we’ve succeeded in
defining a woman and as well stating her value or status in any society she’s
likely to find herself. In this chapter and the immediate subsequent one, we
shall be discussing both the pronounced and hidden (unseen) qualities lying in
or being possessed by a woman. In a general term, it’s being tagged as “Beauty/beauties
of a woman”. In this chapter, we shall be laying emphasis on those qualities
that could be seen or noticed by merely looking at a woman.
To begin with; what is beauty? Beauty is a
distinct feature possessed by someone or something which makes him/it very
attractive or pleasant. Considering human being, anyone can be said to be
beautiful irrespective of the gender. But in most cases, beauty is being linked
to the female gender. On this note, most tomes when a member of the male folks is
being seen by all as a beautiful person, it means that he’s extremely handsome
or has the features of a woman. On the other hand, when something is said to be
beautiful, it means that it’s very engaging. Suffice to say, “Beauty” is a
superlative term.
The
fact we must understand is that, the beauty of a woman is being determined by
the society she belongs or finds herself. On the contrary, it’s also being
determined by the perspective of the man she is eng
aged
to. All in all, a woman’s beauty is often determined by her relatives, friends,
fans, colleagues (associates), or above all, her fiancé or husband as the case
may be. And in most cases, the observation may vary due to our individual taste
or differences. This part remains one of the issues that support the popular
saying “A man’s meat is another man’s poison.” Notwithstanding, regardless of
the numerous perspectives that might be analyzing the beauty of a certain
woman, the person whom her beauty matters most to is her husband or fiancé as
the case may be.
Painstakingly, we shall be analyzing
those physical (exterior) features being possessed by a woman which remain some
of the endowments that guarantee her general beauty. Most of these external
features (qualities) are facial outlook, dental arrangement, physique, height
and complexion.
i.)
Facial outlook: This aspect of a woman’s beauty has to do with her facial appearance.
It’s the first thing one notices or observes the moment he/she looks at a
certain woman. In most cases to some persons, when a woman possesses a very
attractive face, they would say the woman is beautiful without minding to
access the other aspects that contribute to a woman’s beauty. Thus, the beauty
of a woman doesn’t stops at her face, rather it begins there. So you’re not
expected to say that a woman is beautiful simply because she has a very attractive
face. Though the facial appearance plays a very vital role in a woman’s beauty
because it’s her facial look that would propel any society to her as soon as
she presents herself, or nature presents her to the society.
ii.)
Dental arrangement: This has to do with how the teeth of a woman is
arranged. A woman’s teeth may not be evenly
distributed on either or both of her jaws. This anomaly can be found in
both genders. It’s often noticed whenever the person opens his/her lips or
mouth. Any affected person usually shies away from any public speech or
presentation. Such case affects a woman greatly because it diminishes her
beauty. And, it’s being observed as soon as the facial beauty is noted because
it’s also found at the head part of the affected person; of course we know that
it’s rare for one’s mouth to remain close throughout his/her encounter with
another fellow unless the person in question is dumb.
Apart
from the normal arrangement of a woman’s teeth which helps to strengthen her
facial beauty, there’s also one distinct feature noticed in the dental
distribution of some women which is generally known as “gap teeth”. The male
folks also possess this feature but it’s often rare among them. Gap teeth is a
situation whereby a space occurs between a certain tooth and the neighbouring
one. The affected teeth are often incisors which usually occur at the front and
centre part of the human teeth. Any woman that possesses a gap teeth would always
like to showcase it anywhere she goes. Frankly speaking, gap teeth helps to
boost the facial beauty of any affected woman.
iii.)
Physique:
Someone’s physique is the shape and size of his/her body. Beloved, this’s one
of the greatest exterior aspects that boost the beauty of any woman. A woman
may not have the required facial beauty, but provided she’s gifted with a nice
and welcoming physique, she’s can boast of being a beautiful woman. Apart from
the personal ego it gives the woman that possesses it, any existing society in
the world adores a woman with a good physique. A woman could be slim, plump or
fat but does not have a good shape. Thus, irrespective of the size of a woman,
she might be referred to as a shapeless person provided that she doesn’t have a
nice shape. The major factors that determines the shape of a woman are her
hips, waist and breasts.
Mind you, a woman could be very slim
but possesses very huge breast. In most occasions, such women are said to have
a bad physique or in other words, they’re known to be “shapeless” because the
aforementioned features possessed by her do not rhyme. Summarily, the physique
of any woman plays a very vital and potent role in her beauty.
iv.)
Height:
The height of a person or thing is his/its measurement from bottom to top. A
woman’s height contributes tremendously to her exterior beauty. For instance, a
tall woman appears significantly gorgeous. Apparently, height helps to boost a
woman’s reputation or charisma. The height and physique of a person are jointly
and generally referred to as his/her stature. Therefore, a woman’s stature
cannot be underestimated or taken for granted when considering her overall beauty.
v.)
Complexion:
This is the natural colour and quality of
one’s outer skin. Someone’s natural complexion is noticed throughout his/her
body. A woman’s complexion also helps to boost her beauty provided it’s of
pleasant quality irrespective of the kind of colour she possesses. That is to
say; a woman may be fair, chocolate, or dark but has no good complexion. One’s
complexion is said to be good or nice not only when it’s of a certain colour
but also of pleasant and attractive skin. In other words, the skin colour of a
woman does not determine the attractiveness of her skin.
Among all
the exterior features discussed in this chapter, complexion is the only one
that can be altered by the person that bears it. Regardless of one’s colour,
he/she remains the only person that can determine how his/her skin would look
like, or how pleasant the skin would be. Above all, a dark or chocolate colour
can be made to be fair which is bound to be regarded as fake; of course we all
know that fake things do not last.
vi.)
Dress: The type
of clothes that people wear is referred to as their dress. A gorgeous dress
plays an essential role in promoting the outward appearance of a woman in any
occasion she finds herself; though this is not part of a woman’s beauties. The
bone of contention is that, when a woman/lady dresses fine, she looks so
beauteous irrespective of the exterior qualities possessed by her. Believe me,
a fantastic dress has the potential of eclipsing the outward (exterior)
ugliness of a woman; Inter alia, it makes her look respectable. All in all, a
good dress helps to uplift a woman’s pride (ego).
** 4 **
INTERIOR POSSESSIONS
In this chapter, we shall consider those
qualities in a woman that seem to be hidden. Hidden, in the sense that, they
can’t be easily noticed by mere looking at a woman unless when being exhibited
by the woman; some can also be known when the woman’s past or lineage is being
traced. Wise thinkers have in many occasions proved that the interior qualities
possessed by a woman are of greater importance than the exterior ones when
considering her general beauty. Though the interior qualities are often
developed or built by the woman that possesses them, but its societal value
would continue to hold water because it’s that part of a woman that showcases
her real beauty. In other words, for a woman to be referred to as a real woman,
she must had exhibited or had been seen with most of those interior qualities.
Thus, in spite of the fact that most exterior qualities of a woman are often
natural, they are usually tagged by any society as the minor part or aspect of
every woman’s beauty.
Beloved, kindly grant me the privilege to
begin this chapter with a short story. In the early morning of 9th
of October 2012, Tuesday to be precise, one of my childhood friends residing in
Lagos State abruptly woke me up with a phone call to inform me on a very vital
issue. Before picking the call having seen the caller’s name, I was amazed
because I couldn’t remember the last time we spoke on phone by that time of the
day. So, I hesitated in picking the call with a convincing feeling that my name
was a mistaken identity on his phonebook until he repeated the call for the
second time. As soon as I picked the call, he welcomed me with a vigorous
exclamation that reads “Hello Doc!”, which sounded with a tremendous echo.
“Doc” had been the name I was known for since my childhood, and virtually all
my friends and relatives go by it. Having noticed the volume of the
exclamation, I realized the fellow was filled with ecstasy. So I became curious
as I responded to his greeting with “Hi, my man!” in a low tone. He started by
informing me that God has finally blessed him with one, after many years of
searching. At this juncture, I needed not a soothsayer to tell me where he was
actually coming from, therefore, the gist of his proposed speech became
comprehensible at the beginning which yielded an “invisible” nod from me in
subsequent to that. Without wasting much seconds, I curiously urged him to give
me the detail of the striking headline. In respect to my urge, he further informed
me that he had discovered his “missing rib”; in other words, his wife to be. He
said he met her penultimate week before the week he called me in a certain
wedding ceremony he happened to attend.
I was desperately moved by the story,
thus, I asked him to tell me more about her. He told me that I needed to see
the lady, stating that, she was beautiful, slim, fair and tall. He concluded
that she was a model. I tried to ascertain how he managed to access the lady’s
beauty; to worsen it, he responded that she looked like “a queen of the coast.”
Going by his analysis and eulogies coupled with how long I understood he had
been with the lady, I was filled with intense amusement because I realized he
was yet to know the lady in question. Suffice to say that, he hadn’t known any
of the lady’s interior qualities which are of greater value than any other
qualities of a woman such as the ones cited by him. The discussion lasted for
several minutes and I concluded with the word “Bravo!” which I supported with
the clause “God has really blessed you” because I needed not to spoil his mood.
Though I promised to have a meeting with him on the matter.
Brethren, many are still faced with very big
problem while accessing the general beauty of a woman or their wives to be. And
such phenomenon is becoming disgusting and appalling in our present society. To
enable us solve most of these lingering problems relating to accessing a
woman’s beauty, we shall be discussing in detail, those idiosyncrasies that
make a woman complete or marriageable or better still, worthy to be acquainted
with a noble class, as the case may be.
Mind
you, for any of these qualities to be observed in a woman, the concerned person
or society must had spent a reasonable time with the woman/lady in question.
i)
Mentality: One’s mentality is his/her attitudes or ways of thinking.
The mentality of a man or woman is simply his/her thinking or reasoning
ability. In psychology, it’s called “thinking faculty.” Many people believe
that naturally every woman possesses low mentality irrespective of her status
or affiliation(s). But I stand here to tell you that this very perspective is
wrong or anti-critical. Remember I stated earlier that most of the interior
qualities of mankind are being developed or built by the man/woman that
possesses them. And mentality is not exceptional in this case. From my personal
study, experience counts or has a very vital role to play when it calls for
one’s mentality. Yes, experience helps mentality to grow. While intake of good
and adequate diets enables one’s mentality to be healthy, and function properly
as well. In other words, so many factors too numerous to mention influence
someone’s mentality. Even, the kind of friends you keep or hang out with also
plays a role in your mentality. Above all, the environment you find yourself
cannot be left out whenever the issue of mentality is being discussed.
Why every woman is often seen by people as a
set of persons that has low mentality is simply because they’re easily
influenced owing to the fact that, they’re naturally too emotional or, more
emotional than men. But a woman being of low mentality is not natural because
being occupied with high intensity of emotion shouldn’t be an excuse to fall
victim of low mentality. Having a good sense of reasoning or thinking wisely is
all about one having the ability to face reality which each of everyone of us
is gifted with. If you really want to face and stand by reality then you have
to tell yourself the truth; That is the starting point. Then secondly, you’re
expected to be conscious and careful at all times. Inter alia, always try and
eat good food.
A woman with good or high mentality
contributes immensely in a societal building, therefore everyone around her is expected
to adore her. Though it’s rare to find a woman with high mentality in any
society due to some natural tendencies surrounding their existence. Thus, any
woman with worthwhile mentality is not only meant to be adored but as well be
seen as a potential celebrity.
ii.)
Manners: Your manners are the way you behave and speak. In
most cases, mentality controls manners, because, it’s what you think that would
determine how you behave, or speak. Thus manners is the fruit of mentality. In other words, it’s the
product of mentality. Take for instance, a woman may have a slave mentality and
such can only be noticed through her manners. Slave mentality is the state at
which one sees him/herself as a nobody which invariably leads to timidity. Such
mentality is the beginning of failure for anyone that possesses it. Someone who
has such mentality behaves or speaks as if every other person is more important
than him/her. Apparently, the person becomes timid and remains a coward. A
woman that has this kind of mentality shies away from any gathering or public
presentation even if she has other qualities that guarantee manner.
Apart from having a timid manner, some
women also have a rough manner. Some women in most societies are addicted to
fighting, quarrelling, or nagging, just to mention a few. Even the way one
walks, dresses, or eats also counts Beside these canterkerous attitudes of most
women, there’re other bad manners some of them possess which include being
insulting/arrogant, or being occupied with an ideology that they are not meant
to be under any man. The latter is not just a bad manner but an intemperate
one, because apparently, such person is an anti-nature. Since we all are aware
that no one can cheat nature, I wonder how such woman can survive with such
silly mentality. Note that, an experience or exposure also has a strong
influence on one’s manners.
Honestly beloved, manners contribute
immensely to a woman’s beauty. For instance, a woman with a timid mentality
will always fell inferior. While on the contrary, a woman that displays/says
insulting things/words as the case may be, will always feel like a king which’s
significantly an aberration. Of course we’re aware that both attitudes are anti-social.
iii.)
Morality: Morality is how right or acceptable something is or
appears. Moralities may also be linked to manners; in other words, they’re
similar. But the different between them is that, the former has to do with
being God-fearing. Most women are easily influenced by the society they find
themselves, therefore they end up indulging in those activities that are not
called for. This set of people are often recognized or known by the manner in
which they constantly dish out blasphemous utterances. Some of these behaviours
(attitudes) that are referred to as immoral acts are smoking, drinking,
clubbing, fornication, improper dressing, prostitution/flirting, stealing
(theft), lying and cheating. In most societies, any woman associated with any
of the above attitudes is automatically seen as a deviant. More so, any of such
acts drastically reduces the beauty of any woman addicted to it; by so doing,
her pride would be at stake.
iv.) Homeliness:
This has to do with one’s simplicity. From my view, I’ll say it’s one’s ability
to serve humanity. Naturally in most cases, women are expected to act like
anglers because every woman is a potential housewife. Yes, every woman is bound
to be good in kitchen stuffs and other domestic activities. This kind of
attitude or way of life does not reduce the beauty of a woman, but on the
contrary, it appreciates her beauty. This is also one of the major aspects of a
woman’s beauty because it’s the part that would calm her man down even when
he’s boiling. Any woman who can get the happiness of a man’s tummy, can win his
heart as well. It also determine the hygiene aspect of the woman. Apart from a
woman, every person is meant to be homely. A homely person is simple but
comfortable. It’s not a paradox; it’s a fact! Someone who’s homely is
hospitable and accommodating.
v.)
Background:
Your background is your family, academic
and social records or history. Background has a very great influence on one’s
life. Most ladies/women backgrounds are porous, and it affects their mentality
deeply. Your social background are the social affiliations you have or have had
with other recognized societies (groups) around you or within your scope. Such
affiliations or acquaintances help to strengthen one’s status and also help to
uplift his/her level of reasoning. Your academic background are your
accomplishments in your educational strides/endeavours. This particular
background automatically places one at a high level by any society he belongs
or finds himself. For example, a university/polytechnic graduate in any society
is often seen as one who has acquired more tremendous knowledge than a
secondary school graduate or a graduate of any institution of higher learning
that’s not university or polytechnic. Though, there’s a tendency that a
secondary school graduate would be more knowledgeable than a university
graduate.
Thirdly, your family background are the social
and/or moral records of your immediate family both in the past and present. This aspect helps to strengthen
the backbone of the affected person because one’s history and present life
cannot be completed without mentioning his/her family background. This’s why
most times when men/women of high reputation speak, they’ll refer you to their
respective families. Therefore background plays a very crucial role in a
woman’s beauty. In other words, a woman from a bad or indecent background stands
the risk of being humiliated by any society she belongs regardless of the level
of other beauties she possesses.
vi.)
Virginity:
A woman’s virginity is her state of
haven’t had sex. A lady (woman) who has been abstaining from sex since her
childhood is definitely a virgin. This aspect of a woman’s beauty only holds
when considering women that are still single or yet to get married. A virgin
lady is apparently a gold in any society she belongs. Though her status
regarding to virginity may not be known by the society; but if she’s truly a
virgin, within her, she’s not far from a gold. It’s natural. Honestly,
virginity boosts a woman’s ego band helps to strengthen and fortify her overall
beauty. Even if the woman in question doesn’t possess other factors/qualities
that certify a woman’s beauty, she sees
herself as the most beautiful lady/woman on earth. Thus, virginity ought to be
seen as one of the most important aspects when considering the general beauty
of a woman that’s still single. Therefore virginity counts; it pays.
Even if
a woman is married, she would be filled with extreme joy whenever she remembers
that she got married as a virgin. And that will significantly boost her ego. In
that regard, she would continue to tell people especially her children, when
the need arises, that she got married as a virgin. All in all, virginity is
every woman’s pride.
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A WOMAN-FREE SOCIETY
Brethren,
permit me to commence with a smile. If I may ask; do we really have a
woman-free society? A question that must be answered. I pray by the end of this
chapter, we would be able to tender a suitable response to the question that
seem rhetorical.
Over the ages, since the beginning of the
world, several religious institutions and other numerous concerned
societies/groups have been into detailed study of woman’s role in a given
society. This has called for an attention of various academic institutions in
existence. Of course a research cannot be concluded without embracing the
library, and the libraries can’t be found if the educational sector is left
out. To be frank, women coexistence with the men folk has attracted thousands
of critique or criticism from concerned individuals. The major factor that
attracts the aforementioned analyses has been the high sensitivity level of
most women. One’s sensitivity is his/her ability or tendency to respond to
things happening around him/her, or in his/her immediate society (environment).
It’s your ability to react to other people’s happiness or welfare. Naturally,
women are gifted with a high level of sensitivity than the men folk. This is
where homeliness comes in; therefore every woman is expected to be homely
irrespective of her status. But the bad side of this endowment is that some
women are not just sensitive but extremely sensitive due to a certain factor or
the other. And such possession is likely to negatively affect the individual
lives of the women in question. This is the reason virtually all societies are
often attracted to women existence.
Beloved, lest I forget, we’re discussing
a woman-free society. Firstly, what is a woman-free society? A woman-free
society is a society that does not have any woman in its midst. On the other
hand, it can also be referred to as a society in which a woman’s existence,
contribution or opinion is passive or not being regarded seriously.
In case we have forgotten the content of
the second chapter of this book; in that chapter, we were reminded that God
created woman to assist a man or to enable him build his empire having seen
reason beyond any reasonable doubt that a man can never survive or thrive
successfully without a woman by his side. For decades now, great thinkers have
been romancing over this issue and they ended up saying that it’s a fact. If
you are still sceptical over it, then begin your personal research today. And I
would be of help if you eventually need one while on your research work.
Going by the definition of a society as
stated in this book, you’ll agree with me that a man is the centre point of any
society. Taking the world which’s the largest society in existence as an
instance, it’s a man that is in charge; though an invisible being. Thus it’s
natural for a man to be in charge of any society. Then if a man is bound or
destined to be in charge of any society and knowing full well that no man can
stride adequately or survive without a woman by his side, therefore apparently
there’s no society without a woman or in which a woman’s contribution/opinion
is passive. In other words, significantly there’s no woman-free society in
existence.
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CONCLUSION
Brethren, we’ve been
discussing woman and her immediate society. We have been trying to figure out
how a woman directly affects her immediate society. We’ve succeeded in
convincing ourselves that there’s no woman-free society. We have also succeeded
in proving that there are various factors that certify a woman’s general
beauty.
We shouldn’t forget that the interior
qualities possess by a woman supersede the exterior ones while considering her
general or overall beauty. But while considering these internal factors which
are somehow related or similar, we shouldn’t fail to distinguish between them.
For instance, someone’s sensibility is different from his/her sensitivity. Your
sensibility which has to do with your mentality is your ability to reason. That
is, the capability of your cerebrum. Therefore, sensibility is a product of the
human brain. On the other hand, one’s sensitivity which has to do with
homeliness is your ability to respond to your immediate society; that is, your
tendency to react to other people’s matter or welfare. Thus sensitivity is a
product of the human heart. Though the heart is being controlled by the brain.
Beloved, women are mostly occupied with a good sense of sensitivity due to
their natural possession of high level of emotion. In a nutshell, every woman
in any society is expected to be
altruistic regardless of her status or,
her social, religious or political affiliation(s). Thus, any woman who
does not exercise some good sense of sensitivity doesn’t worth to be addressed
as one. Brethren, honestly I’m not giving a homily here, rather I’m apprising
facts.
In the previous chapter, we stated that
a man is in charge of any society. At this juncture, I wish to share a story
with you. A certain man who seemed to have
a great taste begot two sons. Due to his quest for fame and power, he was
training his children in such way that they would definitely become great in
life. Subsequently he was directing or linking his children to matters/events
that were adventurous. One fateful day, his first child happened to have a one
on one meeting with him as planned. During the meeting, his son asked him to
tell him why he was doing that knowing fully that they could be harmed in the
process of tackling risk(s). not only that what they were being subjected to
involved enormous risk but as well they were of no skill to thrive. Having
disclosed his intention to his son, he asked him not to bother himself, stating
that he being the father was in charge of everything. He told his son that he’s
the brain while they (his children) remained the hands which were seen by
people. He went further to educate him that though he might be hidden, but the
gospel truth was that he controls the game or his children’s affairs.
Beloved, at this point I want to frankly
tell you that it’s not he that works or strides that is in charge but he that
motivates the runner. In any society, a
woman remains the motivation or the sole tool that motivates a man. And such
motivation requires the beauty of the woman in question. In other words, it’s
only a beautiful woman that can motivate or inspire a man; of course by now
we’re all clear with the true and exact
definition of a “beautiful woman.” Thus unequivocally, every beautiful woman is
in charge of any society she belongs. Please I’m not raising any dust here.
This is a fact that we are meant to embrace. Let’s ride on!
All in all, in any society, the pride of a
woman which remains her beauty strengthens or fortifies a man’s ego. Thus,, for
any society to perform effectively and efficiently, a woman must be involved.
Mind you, while searching for a marriage
partner, some of the qualities stated in this book can be compromised whilst
some can never be compromised. Therefore a lady who does not possess all the
qualities should not be regarded as a worthless woman because you can’t have it
all, not just in a woman but virtually in everything under the sun. some of
these qualities that can be compromised can be made up by a man. Have it in
mind that, it’s only when you play a role in making a woman’s beauty complete
that you stand to fully appreciate the relationship because you have tendered
your sacrifice. On this note, I put it up to you that every woman is
potentially beautiful. So be wise!
Above all, one really need to be
extremely careful and prayerful while searching for a real woman in order to
avoid any abrupt transition from heart-throb to heart-quake which might
possibly arise. At this juncture, I wish to change the popular saying that says
“One who finds a wife finds a good thing” to one who finds a real woman finds a
treasure.
Conclusively, most qualities of a woman
or any person answer the question of what he/she is, while few of her qualities
answers the question of who she is. The former has to do with those
idiosyncrasies she’s made of while the latter deals with her accomplishment(s).
in other words, the former talks about one’s potential. So if you are searching
for a real woman, you ought to concentrate on what she is.
THE BOOK
The pride of a woman is not just a book,
but a veritable tool that would enable a woman comprehend her true status in
any society she finds herself. Having read the book, she will not just see
herself as a woman, but as a key towards any societal growth or uplift. It’s a
book that was compiled to enable a woman acknowledge that, for an effective and
efficient society to be actualized, her contribution/opinion would not just be
needed but must be adored.
On the other hand, the book was not
designed only to enrich a
woman
or the women folk. In other words, it will also go a long way to educate the
men folk on the routine to abide by while thoroughly accessing the general
beauty of any woman. It would broaden the mind of the man and as well expose
him to the vital facts behind a woman’s ‘pride’. To this effect, fishing out a
real woman wouldn’t be a morass to the man in question.
It’s an edifying book that is expected
to lie in everyone’s hand because it extensively answers the ongoing question
that reads, ”Who’s a real woman?”
THE
AUTHOR
FRED DOC NDU (FDN) NWAOZOR; prolific creative writer & counsellor,
inspirational speaker, media commentator, blogger, public affairs analyst and civil rights activist, bagged his B.Tech (Hons) in
Physics/Electronics from the prestigious Federal University of Technology
Owerri (FUTO); Imo State, Nigeria. Moreover, he’s
obtained other professional honours to include Network/System Engineering and
Administration from various globally recognized institutes of
Information & Communications Technology (ICT). He has over fourteen books
including five prose, one drama and three poetry to his credit. He’s the
founder/leader of numerous local and international societies. He’s also
affiliated to several social and professional Non-Governmental Organizations
(NGOs), both indigenous and foreign.
Fred
Nwaozor is a citizen of Nigeria; from Awo-Omamma in Imo State. And, he
currently resides in Nigeria, Owerri in particular.
The Pride of a Woman
This book is widely sold across the federation
and in the diaspora. It was solely compiled by the author to put to an end the
lingering plights faced by many while considering or accessing the general
beauty of a woman. It’s mostly needed by all splinters and bachelors across the
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